The Baby Blues… This has a couple different meanings to me at the moment. Lennox has the most beautiful blue eyes. When I look into his eyes everything stops. Worries seem so trivial and all I care about is the little boy staring back at me. Snuggling and kissing my baby creates pure joy in my heart… How in the world did I get so lucky? How have I been blessed with such an amazing little child? I am forever grateful for the opportunity to be a mother, to be Lennox’s mother. It is the greatest honor I’ve ever received. Thank you, God.
Lately there’s also something else I associate with baby blues. I’ve been getting melancholy lately. I guess watching my little boy grow so quickly makes me sad because it is going by so fast. Each day he becomes more fun and more alert and we become more connected, but he’s also getting older which is challenging for me at the moment. He’s not sleeping all the time like he used to! He’s alert and awake and not a teeny newborn… I sometimes miss those newborn days even tho days are so wonderful right now. Do any of you ever feel this way? Sometimes I just want to stop the clock and hold him and never let go. He’s already becoming pretty independent and I’m not getting as many snuggles as I used to. I guess I’m just feeling kind of blue about it these days. But I have to feel blue in order to feel the bliss. And I do have to say the bliss trumps it all. I would love to know how you all are dealing with your babies growing older? Any tips or advice are always welcome. I take a little trip down memory lane with some of my favorite pictures 🙂
I hope you have a lovely day and squeeze onto those babes of yours.
XO XO
Amy
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You’re not alone, that’s for sure! My little guy is almost 8 months old and I feel exactly the same way. So in love with him and I want time to stop so that I can just hold him and never let go but I know that’s {obviously} not realistic. He’s now mobile, more independent and so interactive and I love all of those things. I love watching him grow and develop but I do miss his tiny-ness and being able to just cuddle him all day.
I don’t have any advice but all I can say is that so many woman are in the same boat as you. Just cherish every minute that you can together. The nights are long but the years are short. Take a lot of pictures, videos and write things down. Even all of the silly little things. It helps when you feel like the days and months are just flying by.
Big hugs to you. We’re all in this together. It’s the hardest and most wonderful job that we as women could ever ask for.
I’m not sure I have any tips or advice because I feel the exact same way. Our little boy is 4 and will be starting school next year. This is extremely difficult for me because I have been a stay-at-home mom since he was born. He is my best little buddy and we are rarely apart. ? I will pray for your comfort and peace and for you to enjoy ever single moment.
God bless!
I can totally relate. I myself gave birth recently & I have some great days & some really tough ones. My twin boys make 5 months on Monday! I also just went back to work about 2 weeks ago & the adjustment that comes with being a working mom to twin boys & 2 dogs Phewwww! Somebody get me a glass of wine, shoot x that hand me the bottle!!! Lol I had bad post pardum for the first few months as well. I still feel the blues here & there but what has & continues to help me stay grounded, grateful, & encourages is my faith. The higher we climb the more magnificent the view.. I think motherhood..the joys, the heartbreaks, the pull your hair off your head moments can only be tackled with God. His grace & love for me is the only way I make it through my days. I find that the days in which I don’t set aside some time with him, even if it’s a few minutes are the ones I struggle the most. You’re doing great sis! Hang in there. Thanks for sharing your story!!
-Aloha
Ilana
My son is about to turn 9 months old. I feel the exact same way about my little baby growing up. It still feels like yesterday I held him for the first time. In the first weeks of him being born, he wouldn’t sleep unless he was in my arms. At the time I was overtired and would give anything to have him sleep in his bassinet. Now a days I can barely even get him to snuggle longer than a minute. My son is the most independent baby I have ever met and sometimes it drives me crazy but at the same time it’s awesome knowing he’s so smart. Don’t be sad momma! They grow way too fast, but we just need to cherish every single moment we have with them. My advice would be to keep a journal and to take as many pictures and videos as you can. I record random videos of my son smiling, laughing, crying, playing, babbling, anything. It might seem a bit much but I have a detailed journal. When my little one naps I like to jot down some notes on where he’s at in his life, what he did that day, things that have changed, just to keep track. This way you’ll have something to look back on. Lennox is such an adorable baby and he seems very happy, which must be because of how great his momma is!
Mine are 10, 8 & 5. Right now I’m feeling most blue about my 10 year old. He has always been my buddy. I’ve always been a tomboy so we’ve always connected. Lately, I feel it’s a lot more discipline. Trying to keep him on track at school & dealing with pre-teen hormones has not been fun. I miss my buddy. I know this is part of the job & it will get better, but I totally feel your blues.
I think I know exactly how you feel! My son is 5 months and I can’t even comprehend how quickly the time has gone.
He’s becoming such a character and seems to learn something new every single day! He is awake much more then he is asleep. I spend so long trying to get him to sleep (must be harder then any game or puzzle, try and get the tired baby to sleep!) and then when he is asleep I miss him so much!
Much love! It’s lovely knowing others are on the same journey, whoever and wherever you are.
Xx
Hi Amy, thanks for sharing! I love seeing pictures of your beautiful son.
I wish I could say that these growing up blues get easier, but from my personal experience, it doesn’t. I am currently experiencing similar blues. My eldest daughter turned 10 thist past May, and I must admit, it was so much harder to deal with and accept than I ever imagined it would be. How could my baby girl have turned 10?! I wish I could slow down the hands of time a bit. My daughter will start middle school next year, and it is something I am truly trying my hardest not to think about. My youngest began first grade this year. How is that possible when it feels like only yesterday she made our family a party of four. I wish I could offer solace, but it is comforting to read about someone else’s struggle with growing pains. The best and most we can do is love our children with every fiber of our being and make sure their smiles never fade, and even when the moment might come along when getting snuggles might not be on their radar, it’s our job to grab them and hold them even tighter so they may always know the warmth, security, and true love from us will always be there waiting for them with open arms. Enjoy every minute with your prince! Embrace the blues for they validate your undying love for your son. Best of luck!
I now have a 3 year old daughter and a 3 month old son. I felt what you are feeling when my daughter started to become more engaging in the world and not just this cuddly infant who didn’t squirm away all the time. However I found that when the milestones of her running into my arms for hugs, calling me mommy, holding my hand for walks, reading stories before bedtime, giving me kisses and just overall being the sweetheart she is really helped me get through those blues slowly and embrace this new chapter she’s begun. My big advice though is when he wants cuddles just sit down and take in that moment or if they have a bad night and want to lay with you in your bed, do it. I really cherished those small moments and each one brings you that much closer to your baby and remember , no matter their age they are always your little baby in your heart.
Gah baby blues indeed! My eldest baby, a boy, Lewis, is now coming up for 26 years old! My youngest, a girl, Jessie, is 23!
It has passed in the blink of an eye. I sometimes wish it would slow down at least! ?
However, it’s lovely when you see them being successful adults. ?❤️
Amy
It’s jackie (yoga,real estate, Ballys gym…) I had my boy… And he’s two months and it feels like its flying by. I totally get the blues that he’s gonna grow up but I try not to miss a moment and document and talk about it with my family. Let’s get together if you have a minute… For a hike or tea or park date (818)568-7220
Reading this was like reading my own mind. My 7.5 month old never wants to snuggle anymore, sleeps terribly the last 2 months, and always wants to be on the move. He never wants to be in the car or my arms. But he is also so much fun – discovering so much and becoming so independent in a good way. And I cherish that at nighttime he does snuggle before bed. And that he only wants me to put him to sleep. In watching friends with older babies I can see that there is a light ahead of time where I can sit outside with a coffee while he plays in the yard with the dogs, and where independence comes back to mama too. And as much as it’s hard to miss the newborn stage, there is something nice in knowing that his independence will lead to mama independence too. And watching him thrive and speak and be able to say I love you. Hang in there mama – you are doing amazing.
Amy- thank you so much for posting this and your blog in People. I just read it and I cried because you are one of the first people to put into words how I’ve been feeling. My daughter is 10 weeks and I can’t believe how fast it has gone. I also dealt with the conflicting emotions of missing being pregnant while also being overjoyed that she was here. I loved being pregnant and my baby came at 39 weeks, which also made me feel cheated out of a full term pregnancy. I would try to explain to my husband that although I love having her here, I also miss being pregnant. I felt strange bc my baby blues weren’t presenting in the traditional manner; I felt completely attached to my daughter and not overwhelmed at all. I just wished my pregnancy had gone by slower and now I wish the first 10 weeks of her life had gone by slower. I feel so sad thinking that she won’t always be this cuddly baby. As others mentioned I’m keeping a journal and taking lots of pics and videos. Also my husband set up an email account for her and we gave it to our friends and family so they can email her for her to read later.